A Guide to Handling Your Kid’s Frenemy: Why You Shouldn’t Tell the Other Parent

a teenage girl getting bulliedYou might think you’ve already prepared your kids for school by purchasing the books, backpack, and binders, but it doesn’t end there. You also have to get them ready for the social blind side.

A social blindside happens when, at some time during high school in Salt Lake City, your kid experiences different social scenarios. For one, they could come to realize that their close friend is a frenemy or when they hear gossips about them spreading in school. It also includes not getting invited to someone’s party and finding of it after the event. Your child will most likely run to you for help or advice, so refer to these do’s and don’ts just in case.

Don’t call the other parent (or school).

As much as you want to tell the other parent (or school) regarding how their child is misbehaving, it will not help your child’s situation in the long run. Tweens have to learn to handle friendship troubles on their own. A parent intervening won’t reduce your child’s pain nor help them learn to be more confident socially. This is a demeaning and undermining way to resolve the issue. You can only do this if the issue goes as far as bullying.

Instead…

Help your kid by coming up with methods on how she could respond next time her frenemy confronts her. Your child can choose to ignore it and hang out with you instead or ask the other person why they keep doing what they do. By thinking of their solutions, they will feel more confident and capable.

You have most likely been a victim of the social blind side when you were in middle school and fear that your child may go through it, too. However, you have to understand that you cannot control everything and be prepared if this does happen to your child.